Stripping on Your Period – Tampon Malfunction

Can strippers still strip while on their period? Should they wear a maxi pad? Should they wear a tampon? What do they do with their tampon string? Yikes!

Many strippers wonder if stripping while on their period is something they should even do. In short, YES. Strippers shouldn’t rule out stripping if they’re on their period just because of cramps.  The sensuous or raunchy dancing –depending on how she’s feeling that night helps relieve the pressure and discomfort of cramps. Although she may want to sit on her comfy couch at home and eat chocolate bon bons all night, going to work may actually help with PMS symptoms.

As you may have guessed it, wearing a pad is completely out of the question. Your g-string is way too tiny to hide a pad, and trying to do so by cutting it down to size, is a BAD idea. You don’t want your pad falling out while you’re doing a pole trick, or be seen by customers with the glow of the black lights.

To strip on your period, you’ll have to use a tampon. There are three techniques to hide the tampon string. “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask,” goes into detail about each method and how to properly execute them.

Buy the eBook at BeAnExoticDancer.com and learn how to avoid a tampon malfunction!

How to be a stripper – a how to guide for strippers.

Do You Want to be a MALE Stripper?

I get a lot of traffic on BeAnExoticDancer.com from people using the search term, ‘I want to be a male stripper,’ so I thought I’d post a little diddy to point you fellas in the right direction.

My eBook, ‘How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask’ is geared towards women, so I want to point you to the male version…

I’ve got the perfect book for men interested in becoming strippers. The book is called, “Road Warrior: Confessions of a male stripper” by Nick Molloy. Nick and I have been in contact and he seems like a pretty cool guy with a lot of knowledge from the male stripper perspective. Although it’s not a how to manual, and does contain a lot of personal story, it does provide insight into the male stripper world and is the closest thing to a how to manual you’ll get.

Here’s a brief summary of the book:

“Confessions of a Male Stripper explodes the myths concerning the UK male strip scene from as unlikely a stripper as you might ever encounter!

Nick outlines the struggles of a newcomer in a cliquey business at the very bottom of the show-business ladder. Along the way, the reader is introduced to some colorful and fascinating characters: other male strippers who possess seemingly unending egos, the unlimited vitriol of the drag queens that frequently share their dressing room, through to agents and brokers who demand sex for favors.

Nick’s tale chronicles the rise and current decline of the male strip scene. It delves deep into the psychology of a stripper, and tackles the stereotypes thoroughly. Nick also gives a painfully honest account of his own upbringing and his psyche comes in for some ruthless scrutiny. This provides some very revealing home truths and may explain why he now does what he does.

Confessions of a male stripper is a story that quite literally lays everything bare! The girls, the gays, the egos, the myths, the rumors, the underhand tactics, the bitchiness, the TV offers, the psychology, and ultimately the freedom of a stripping lifestyle are all candidly here for everyone to see.”

It’s an inexpensive buy, so check it out on Amazon: Male Stripper

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How to Decide if You Should Become a Stripper

Have you ever wanted to become a stripper but weren’t sure if you could do it?

Below is a step by step guide to help you figure out if becoming a stripper is something in your future.

Step 1: Using a piece of paper and a pen/ pencil, go through each of the steps below and answer each one with a ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ At the end of the exercise you’ll have a better idea of whether or not stripping is a profession you want to pursue.

Step 2: Are you old enough to become a stripper? The minimum age of an exotic dancer depends on where you live and what type of club you’ll be dancing at. Nude clubs don’t serve alcohol and therefore the minimum age is 18 years old. However, at a topless bar/club alcohol is served and since the minimum age to buy alcohol is 21 (National Minimum Drinking Age Act of 1984), the minimum age to dance there is also 21.

Step 3: Do you want to make a lot of money? Dancers generally make between $80 and $100 an hour.

Step 4: Are you comfortable being naked/ topless in front of strangers? Although being nude or topless is slightly uncomfortable at first, your comfort level will increase over time.

Step 5: Do you want/ need a flexible job schedule? Dancers generally work part time and are afforded the benefit of being able to vary the hours and days they work. When first starting out, you and the club manager will agree on a certain set of hours, however with time, you’ll have more flexibility and be able to make changes.

Step 6: Do you have a proportional sized body? A common misconception that women have is that all dancers must fit a certain ‘cookie cutter’ body shape such as 5’ 6”, weigh 105 lbs, and have a 36DD bra size. This couldn’t be further from the truth.  Every customer has different taste in women whether it is their hair color, the shape of their body, their ethnicity, and even their boob size. Although every customer has certain physical traits he finds attractive, every single one of them has one thing in common that dancers need to focus on—making him feel special. Making a customer feel special isn’t done with the size of your breasts, the color of your hair, or the color of your skin but instead with your personality. Tall, short, blond, brunette, big boobs, small boobs, no boobs… there’s a customer for every type of woman.

Step 7: Can you handle rejection? Being able to handle rejection is an important part of becoming a stripper. Although rejection may seem personal, it’s not. The customer may just be having a bad day, be out of money, or may have just walked into the club five minutes prior.

Step 8: Are you personable? You may be the right age, have the right body, and be able to handle rejection, but if you’re not personable, you will have a difficult time making money. Part of making money is being able to talk to customers and make them feel special. As the old saying goes, “you catch more flies with honey.”

Step 9: Look at the paper you’ve used to write down your answers. If you’ve answered ‘yes’ to most of these questions, you have the potential of becoming a successful stripper.

For more information, read “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask.”

Strippers and Mirrors – How To Use Your Surroundings

Sapphire, New York

A lot of strip clubs pad the perimeter of their club room(s) with mirrors to give the illusion that the room(s) is(are) bigger. As a beginner, you’re probably more concerned about making a good impression on the people at your stage show then thinking about the walls, but I’d like to give you something to think about.

You can use the mirrors around you to your advantage. The most obvious is being able to see yourself and your form. When you’re just starting out, you may be a little self conscious and unsure about yourself, so getting a different perspective may ease your fears. By doing this, you can make slight changes to your routine when you see something that doesn’t look as appealing as you thought it would.

You can also use the mirrors around you to see how your customers are responding to your stage dance without staring at them and making them uncomfortable.

Bawdy House -Van Nuys, CA. Pic by: The Toe Stubber

As you read “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask,” you’ll notice that I’m all about personal and money safety, so naturally, I would advise you to use mirrors to keep a watchful eye on your money box and the people around it.

One thing to be careful about is that customers can see you in the mirror too. If you’re up on stage don’t make a bored or grossed out face when you think no one’s looking and then turn around facing your customers with a fake plastered smile… there’s a good chance they saw that and needless to say, you’ve probably cost yourself some tips!

How Strippers Should Handle A Customer’s Advances

I received an excellent question from Katrina, one of my blog readers, in my ‘Ask Shy a Question’ page and wanted to share my thoughts on the subject with you. The question was:

“The biggest problem I run into dancing is how to deal with the guys that are basically there to ask you out. It seems like the majority of them try. What is a better response than “I don’t date customers” or “it’s against club rules” that you can use to be polite and not piss off potential clients? Thank you! :)

A common situation that exotic dancers find themselves in when working is when they have to figure out how to let a customer know they aren’t interested in dating or going home with them, yet still keeping them interested in spending money.

Although there isn’t a magic phrase that can accomplish both not hurting their feelings and also ensuring that you’ll continue to get cash from your customer, the main thing to focus on is the point you’re trying to make –you’re not going to date or go home with him.

The type of customer who’s there to ask dancers out rather than enjoy the customer/dancer relationship, as it was meant to be, is generally a short term customer. He’s there to find a one night stand or girlfriend and isn’t necessarily interested in spending money at the tip rail or on private dances. I discuss this and other types of customers and how to deal with them in chapter 10 of “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask.”

I’ve found that being honest, even though it might hurt his feelings, is the best way to handle the situation. Katrina’s responses are not only direct, but honest and I think they are both great ways of getting the point across. However, because I was asked to give a ‘better response,’ I think the best way to word your ‘let down’ is to say something along the lines of, “Awww, that’s so sweet of you to ask me out. I’m very flattered and if we had met under different circumstances things might have been different. I treat my job very seriously and have a rule that I don’t date customers or people I’ve met at the club. I’m sorry!”  If he asks you to break your rules, just say, “I’m sorry, I can’t do that. You can still enjoy my company at the club but I just can’t take it further than that.”

It’s very important that dancers create boundaries and make rules to follow. Usually guys accept and appreciate your honesty and are grateful that you didn’t string them along for weeks on end before telling them that nothing is going to happen outside the club.

Here are a few things to consider:

* Although you run the risk of hurting his feelings and losing potential future cash flow, it’s important that he understands that he’s not getting anything other than a dancer/customer relationship with you. This can work to your advantage in several ways: (1) Unless he’s a total douche bag, he’ll respect that you take your job seriously and are setting clear boundaries for yourself, (2) your comment shows him that if he wants to continue ‘seeing’ you at the club, that he’ll have to spend money on you like everybody else.

* If he decides that he’d rather move on and try his luck with another dancer, then he wasn’t worth your time. This just proves that even if his feelings got hurt with your ‘let down,’ he wasn’t going to be a future customer anyway.

* Consider that the guy asking you out might be trying to solicit some form of prostitution from you. What if he’s an undercover officer?

Keep your ‘business hat’ on while working and allow yourself to be selective with whom you do business with. There is virtually an endless supply of customers who’ll visit your club, so whether you get your next dance from Joe Schmoe or John Doe, the money will come. This balancing act can be difficult, but it’s important to remember that although being brutally honest may drive some customers away, it won’t drive them all away.

How to be a stripper – a how to guide for strippers

How To Pick Your Stripper – Exotic Dancer Stage Name

Deciding what your stage name will be is an important decision. If your city requires you to obtain an ‘Adult Entertainer’s Permit,’ your stage name will be on all documentation submitted as well as the permit itself. Changing this will involve extra paperwork and an extra trip to the permit and licensing department, so choosing your stripper name carefully is important.

Using the book “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask” as guidance, a step by step list was put together.

1. Figure out possible names that interest you. Decide if you want a ‘real’ sounding name like, “Lisa” or a more stripper sounding name such as “Mercedes.”

2. Get creative. Get a piece of paper and start jotting down any and all ideas of what you think your stripper name should be.

Most commonly, stripper names are either names of spices or cities such as Cinnamon or Brooklyn.

3. See if the name you want is already taken. Because you’ll most likely pick your stage name out before you actually start dancing, it’s important to go to the club you’ll be working at and either ask management, waitresses, bartenders, or other dancers if there is another dancer working there with the name you want.

4. See if the name you want rhymes with one already taken. Believe it or not, it’s common to have stripper names sound similar or rhyme (ex. Foxy and Roxy), so it’s important that your name is unique. The reason for this is because the D.J. will be calling your name over the microphone to announce when it’s your turn to get on stage. You don’t want to accidentally go on stage, ditch your customer, and then realize it’s not your turn.

5. Once you’ve narrowed it down to two or three names pick the best one. My stripper name was “Shy” and it helped me get a lot of attention. Customers would ask, “Are you REALLY shy?!” Try to pick a name that fits your personality but also draws attention to yourself.

Tips:

* You’re always going to get the question, “What’s your real name?” so if you choose a stage name that is more on the ‘real’ side, you can always say, “Lisa IS my real name!”

* Your stage name will become second nature to you, so don’t worry if it doesn’t feel natural at first.

How To Pick A Money Box

How you choose to store your money can vary, but the most common is to store it in a money box. A money box is usually a makeup box or some sort of plastic container with a handle. You want to avoid using a regular purse to store your money because it can easily blend into the dark lighting and it can look similar to a purse that a woman customer might have brought in. When you bring this box on stage with you, make sure it is out of the reach of any customer sitting at your stage. You don’t want to have someone steal it during your show.

Here are a few examples of what a money box looks like. You should be able to find them at Target, Walmart, etc. but if not, you may want to look online.


Tips:
*You’ll want to look for something that’s light to carry and on the smaller side.
*Pick a box that’s bright and unique so you can distinguish it from others.
*If you can only find a ‘plain’ box, add stickers to it or any other distinguishing features to make it easy for you to spot.
*If you can find a box with a mirror in it– BONUS! You’ll be able to quickly check your makeup as you’re putting your money in your box.
*Since these boxes are usually made for makeup, try to find one that doesn’t have a lot of shelves in it… you want something that is hollow (like the pictures above).


How To Be A Stripper – A How To Guide For Strippers

How to Successfully Collect Tips from Stage Dances as an Exotic Dancer

Making sure you collect all your tips after dancing on stage is an important element to the income you’ll make as an exotic dancer. Using the information gathered from the book, “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask” a step by step guide was put together to help you understand the steps you should take when collecting tips after your stage dance.

1. Bring your money box on stage. How you choose to store your money can vary, but the most common is to store it in a money box. A money box is usually a makeup box or some sort of plastic container with a handle. You want to avoid using a regular purse to store your money because it can easily blend into the dark lighting and it can look similar to a purse that a woman customer might have brought in. When you bring this box on stage with you, make sure it is out of the reach of any customer sitting at your stage. You don’t want to have someone steal it during your show.

2. Collect tips customers may have thrown on your stage. Gather up any dollar bills customers may have thrown on your stage while you were dancing. Doing this in a sexy manner can give customers a little extra incentive to tip you when you come by to collect individual tips.

3. Bring the money you’ve just picked up off stage to your money box. Once you’ve gathered tips customers may have thrown on stage, make sure you go to your money box before you continue collecting tips. Shove all your money in there without straightening or unfolding any bills… you can do this later.

4. Collect tips from customers sitting directly at your stage. Once your set is over and you’ve put your clothes back on, put your garter on one of your thighs. Always start at one side of the stage and systematically go to each customer. Stick the leg with the garter on it out to the customer and with one hand hold the money you’ve already collected to one side of your thigh, and with the other pull the garter out so that the customer can place the money inside your garter. Always smile and say thank you to the customer for their tip.

5. Pay attention to who gives you what. This is the time to evaluate which customers can be potential sources of money. The customer who tips you $1 probably isn’t going to buy a lap dance from you, but you can always ask. However, the customer who gives you a $5 bill is more likely to accept your offer. It’s very important that you look at what he’s wearing and any distinguishing features so you can find him again. Don’t try to remember the customer by the place he’s sitting, he isn’t going to stay in the same seat all night.

6. Remove some of your tips. When you finish collecting tips from customers directly on your stage, remove some of the tips from your garter. Depending on how much you have in your garter, you’ll want to remove between 20%-50% of it and put it in your money box. When you go to collect money from customers sitting around your stage (as opposed to sitting at it) you want them to know you just got off stage but not make it look like you already have plenty of tips. Customers tend to tip less if they think you’ve already made ‘too much’ from other customers.

7. Collect tips from customers sitting around your stage. After your stage set is over and you’ve collected your tips from customers sitting directly at your stage, try to collect tips from customers around your stage. Try not to think of this as a free for all where you ask every single guy at the club for a tip. Be reasonable and know which customers were actually watching you dance and which ones were getting dances from other girls, in the restroom, etc.

8. Store your money. Once you’ve collected all your tips, ‘shove’ all your money in your money box. The reason to ‘shove’ your money in is to prevent customers from seeing how much money you’ve actually collected and the amount of money you currently have in your box. You don’t want others to see how much money you have for safety reasons. You can straighten out your bills, count your money, etc. in the back room where you have more privacy.

Tips:

*Once in the back room, straighten out your bills

*Organize your tips in denominations of ones, fives, tens, twenties, and hundreds

*Exchange most of your ones for larger denominations (management, bartenders, or waitresses can provide this for you)

*Paperclip or rubber band any one dollar bills you may still have in groups of $20 or $25. This will make it easier for you to count at the end of the night or give change to customers.

*When making change for customers, always count out loud as you count out the change. You don’t want the customer to come back 10 minutes later saying you short changed him.

Predict the Amount of Money You’ll Make as a Stripper

If becoming an exotic dancer has ever crossed your mind, you’ve probably asked yourself ‘how much money can I make?’  Because this and a lot of other questions are running through your mind, the book “How To Be A Stripper: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask” was written to help answer this and many other questions. Using the information gathered from the book, a step by step guide was put together to help predict the amount of money you can make as an exotic dancer.

1. Understand where the money comes from. The two main sources of money you’ll earn will come from (1) stage dances and (2) lap dances. The term lap dance, table dance, private dance, and personal dance can all be used interchangeably.

2. Begin by collecting your tips from stage dances. Your first source of income will be from stage dances. This is the money you collect after you’ve performed on stage. You should try to collect tips from everyone sitting on and in very close proximity to your stage and who might have seen you dance.

Because most dance sets are made up of two 3.5 minute long songs, the club will have approximately eight girls dancing per hour. Keep in mind that there is at least a 30 second interval between dancers, so there is a chance that only seven girls will go up on stage per hour/per stage.

Depending on how many stages there are in your club, how many girls are on the rotation schedule, and how many customers there are, you’ll most likely make between $10 and $50 per stage show.

3. Supplement your money from stage dances, with money from private dances. Most lap dances are between $10 and $20 per dance, so the key to making a lot of money is to keep your customer buying dances from you once you’ve already got him in your chair. The best thing to do is make your lap dance the most seductive during the last 30 seconds. When you can hear the song starting to end, ask your customer if he wants you to continue. If you’ve done it right, he’ll want more!

4. Add your two sources together. Taking the money you make off stage dances and adding it to the money you can make by getting customers to buy lap dances from you, you can make between $80 and $100 an HOUR. Of course, this amount may vary… some nights you’ll make more and some nights you’ll make less, but this is the average you should expect.

Tips:

*  Always be nice to customers, even if they don’t tip you.

*  People who don’t tip you at first, might have a change of heart and tip you later in the night, so always try to collect your tips from non-tippers again.

*  Don’t expect everyone to tip you. They may not have seen your dance because they just walked in, just got back from the bathroom, or was getting a private dance from another dancer.

*  Don’t take rejection personally.

*  To  make the most money, try not to drink or do drugs at work, they will hinder your ability to keep track of who has tipped you the most and who might be possible sources of private dance income.

Warnings:

*  It’s easy to get upset if someone doesn’t tip you, but don’t let it consume your night and put you in a bad mood. Just pick yourself up and know that some customers tip more than others, so in the end it’s a wash.

*  Don’t steal customers from the stage when another girl is dancing. Have common courtesy and make sure that you’re trying to get lap dances without offending other dancers.

*  Don’t take too much time collecting your tips after your stage dance, guys have a hard time remembering the last dancer once a new girl is on stage.

How to be a stripper – the ultimate stripper guide